It seems the longer I am in the craft, the more boundaries and limitations seem to be lifted away – or at least, my desire to have such boundaries dissipates. When I was much younger then I am today, I had an urge to label my type of witching, to make it easily identifiable what things I did, how I thought about things and why I did and thought things the way I did. As if that made me more powerful as a witch, or more legitimate or to be taken more seriously by other witches as to show I “belonged” to a certain group or differentiate from other groups; To prove that despite some ideas that some people had about what and who you needed to be in order to be a proper witch, I could be a witch by challenging those thoughts.
Funny as it is, that has become less important to me and it feels like now that I finally left that behind me, I feel more like a witch then ever. I also became quite adamant what it means to be a witch and even more so, instead of worrying what defines a witch, having a unmovable realisation of what doesn’t matter in the definition or requisites to be a witch.
First of all: your path on how you become a witch. IT DOES NOT MATTER. whether you followed a single tradition for your entire life, or went around like crazy, tasting the various forms and flavours of witchcraft, if it leads to an authentic experience of the craft, you are a witch. I always felt that the power of the witch really starts to grow when the foundation is laid and a witch starts to boldly go into the void and seeks out the limitations of their craft, with the only purpose to push the boundaries. It’s not a bad thing to be learning of someone and follow a tradition, but for a witch, at some point the training wheels need to go off. Its scary, its intimidating, but it is what makes a witch.
Second: Your gender/identity/race/age is something that is related to the physical plane of life. the craft in wrought in another realm where not of that baggage and labels matter. the energy of your spirit in the circle is all that natters, the rest is ballast that will keep you anchored in the physical plane. If you want to break the sound barrier into the void, drop that stuff, it is useless. Come as you are, there is a huge truth about being “naked in your rites”. No fancy dress, no titles, no labels, no boxes. Have the courage!
Third: As a witch, don’t put up with mundane small mindedness or anything that is looking to separate you from the human race. You are a witch and nothing but a witch. You know who and what you are: human, and nothing can change that. You are unique and therefor you will have your own flavour of craft. Some people will think it is awesome, some people will be full of critique. Don’t be distracted from what you are doing by either of these people, steer your own course.
Fourth: If you works with deities, their perceived genetalia don’t mean anything. if you wrestle with definition like gender and polarity in the craft, it is because you bring the mundane into the arcane. The mundane definitions are not interchangeable with the arcane. Talk about cis-het interpretation is just rubbish, it’s not cis-het, it is just people not getting it and getting trapped in mundane struggles. Don’t follow them! Just before you ask yourself if I am writing from the optic of trans/fluid/queer or cis-het gender, I’m just letting you know that my thoughts about it would not vary if I were one or the other and in fact, IT DOESN’T MATTER. I have worked with people of diverse gender identity and preferences and I never found that my preference of identity and who I like to fuck to make one damn different in the effect of the craft and rituals performed.
Fifth: As a witch, I feel pity towards those that feel the need to separate themselves from the rest of the human race to defining their craft by their sexual identity. I have fought tooth and nail against traditionalist that in their poor understanding of polarity and gender think that the magic of the craft is masculine-feminine polarity based. These poor souls have no idea about the principles of the craft and are seriously misguided, but I have no patience either for those on the other side of the line making claims that cis-het people just do’t get it. if you are of that crowd, you are no better then the misguided, guilty od assumption and generalisation.
I’d probably go on about some more labelisms that seem to worm themselves into the contemporary discussion of the craft and about being a witch, but by the gods and goddesses, have the balls or the ovaries to be a witch and nothing but a witch.
For what I learned of being a witch it also means to have a hide of steel and a good dose of not giving a damn what other people think. Personally I have to deal with my own issues that I experienced in mundane life and I get confronted as a witch more often then I like, but I don’t ask people to go easy on me, I AM THE WITCH, PEOPLE ASK ME TO GO EASY ON THEM. Witches are the archetype anarchists, the punks of old. Seriously, our battle hymn might as well be from Rage against the Machine as we shout “F*ck you, I won’t do as you told me!”
So if you are trans/queer/fluid or whatever and of certain race or ethnic, if you are a witch, you don’t need to differentiate yourself from a witch, just because some tired old wankers haven’t caught on. You are a witch, or you are not. there is nothing more to it.